What motivates us to change? One of the most powerful motivators is being sick of yourself. Are you tired of doing the same thing over and over, repeating the same patterns with the same people, driving the same routes, and hating your same job? Being sick of yourself is an act of both self-rejection and self-love.
When you’re frustrated with yourself or struggling with a decision, stop fighting yourself for a moment and turn it over to your subconscious mind. You’ll find that something miraculous will happen. The sky will open up and present your answer to you.
Sometimes it takes something shocking to shake you awake. For example an illness, a fender bender or unexpectedly a relationship ends. A chaotic experience can force you out of your old habits and patterns.
Not all decisions have to be made like this. Most of my decisions are fueled by an inner knowing that guides me and that I implicitly trust. I ask no one for permission, I just go ahead and make my decision. Trust yourself.
When you make a decision, don’t look back. That conscious decision began in your conscious, creative mind. Your subconscious mind accepts that decision because you are fueled with emotion to change, have claimed it and chosen it as your own through feeling and conviction. Such a decision is more energetically explosive because it is made from a powerful feeling of the need to change. Recognizing that we have been held back by false beliefs, fears, less than positive personality traits (such as defensiveness) and ideas of what others will think of us (whether or not they are true).
Negative emotions can powerfully drive us to create new experiences. When I tell myself, “I have had enough! I am done!” I will then make the change. Once I have made that declaration, everything changes.
This is the deepest form of self-love that you can experience: caring for yourself. When you make the decision to change, to let go, to stop thinking the same negative thoughts, to stop loathing yourself and heaping more guilt upon yourself from sins that are long past, you will experience change. Your past is not a life sentence. If you don’t like it, change it. Change your mind about it. See it differently. It’s not easy to do, but neither is struggling with it.
How Do Our Workshops and Readings Help Motivate You to Change?
By the time a person calls me for a reading or comes to a workshop, they are usually at the threshold of change, but have turned their feelings of being sick of themselves inward. They may be depressed, feel low in energy and lackluster, feel that they are living their lives for someone else, feel that they are living their lives that someone else told them they needed to live, and they have put away the passion that lives deep within their souls. Once you learn the techniques of changing your mind, your life will change for the better. Your energy will be alive and vibrant. Your life will be yours to live, passionately.
Others who call me for a reading or come to a workshop are blaming others for their lives not being what they want them to be. This is just an excuse. You will learn that you, and no one else, are responsible for your life. The first thing that our workshop participants must do is to take responsibility for themselves and then commit to making the change that they want to see. And they do change.
It is the most beautiful thing to witness a person come into their own and make decisions that suddenly allow them to be free. Their energy becomes lighter, their skin begins to glow, they’re happier, they’re more peaceful and they are in their own power. Once they have been given the tools for change, they accept these tools to make their lives better. They are now choosing to live more authentically from their true selves, to allow themselves to have what they desire and to ditch the ideas and beliefs that do not resonate with their true selves.
Our workshops are designed to teach you the science behind the mysticism. You aren’t guessing how to change – we are showing you how it’s done. We teach you how to manifest your reality using the energy within yourself. In your feelings, thoughts and words lies a power waiting to come together and be unleashed. You will follow this up with definitive action and a clear, conscious choice using meditation and other tools we give you, and you will become unstoppable.
How You Can Motivate Yourself to Begin to Change
Some of the first and easiest steps that you can take to begin motivating yourself to change is to become aware of your feelings. Write them down. Take a walk in nature and commune with your spirit. Listen to it speak to you and allow it to motivate you to change and to live the life that is meant for you to live.
Your first instinct when I tell you to do this might be to push back with flimsy reasons why you can’t do it. If you argue for your limitations, they are yours. You own your own limitations. But remember – there’s always a way. You will never change until you have had enough of your own shit. Enough can come in the form of physical debilitations, health problems, stress, psychological problems and problems in your relationships on all levels.
The great explorer, Cortez, was so determined to take the island of Veracruz that he ordered his men to burn the ships. If you want to change, burn the ships. This leaves you no way out, with no turning back. This creates a spiritual and psychological commitment that says, “I have decided that no matter what, I will do this! I have burned all of my options.” Everything from here on out will be focused on making your new reality a success.
Too often, we see people holding onto things that are holding them back from change. These things don’t keep you safe, but rather, they slowly kill your dreams. This relates to jobs as well as relationships. When we fear undesired outcomes, we don’t take the risks needed to have and to sustain deep, fulfilling relationships. The same holds true with our desire for fulfilling work. Dream your dream – stop living someone else’s dream. If not in this life, when? Tomorrow may never come. So commit to yourself today. If you find that you are getting sick and frustrated with yourself and blaming other people for your alleged failures, burn the ships! Trust your inner voice and pursue your dreams. Take a leap of faith and never look back.
